What is Coaching, Anyway?
Imagine that you have your own personal champion who helps you to define your goals, challenges you to identify and overcome obstacles, works with you to develop action plans, holds you accountable for moving forward, and celebrates with you as you make things happen. That's what coaching is all about; I will be that champion for you.
At the beginning of our work together, we will identify your coaching objectives--what you want to change in your career or life. We'll meet via phone, Skype, or in person for at least six one-hour sessions over the course of several months. During these conversations, we will discuss your goals and concerns; identify obstacles, and even excuses, that may be holding you back; and create strategies and specific action plans to guide you forward to achieve your goals. As you move forward, I'll be your accountability partner, supporting and encouraging you every step of the way.
What Would a Session Be Like?
You'll bring a topic for the session--something that's important to you right now. We will explore that topic and your ideas and feelings about it. I will serve as your sounding board and brainstorming partner. You'll create a plan of action, and typically you'll leave the coaching session with a homework assignment--something that you've committed to do before our next session and to which I'll hold you accountable. You will conclude each session feeling that you've learned something about yourself and have in hand action steps that excite you.
What Would We Even Talk About?
As you know, being a rabbi comes with great rewards--and sometimes great challenges. There is no shame in asking for guidance in handling the obstacles that are unique to the rabbinate and to your own life and career. Here are just a few examples of topics your fellow rabbis have brought up with me:
With so many demands on my time, I'm struggling to set priorities and get things done.
I'm thinking about exploring positions outside of the congregational rabbinate but feel unsure about that path.
I need help creating effective job application materials and preparing for job interviews.
My congregation expects me to handle certain responsibilities (e.g., managing a budget, supervising staff) for which I have minimal formal training.
I don't know how to negotiate my salary and compensation package.
My spouse isn't on board with my wish to make a job change.
Anything that is important to you is a worthwhile topic for a coaching session.
Are You Telling Anyone About Me?
In a word: No. I maintain the highest ethical standards of the coaching profession. What we discuss in our coaching sessions stays with me.
Artwork by Isaac Brynjegard-Bialik